So Valentine’s Day has passed and we cannot give those we love and care about cards to express our feelings, or use the day to communicate the things we feel and think about to friends, lovers, husbands, wives, children, parents, siblings, maybe even bosses or teachers.  Why is it so hard to communicate with each other in a meaningful way,  everyday? I know when I received a Valentine’s card from one of my best friends with an added written line you are so important to me, my whole day was made.  I called her and thanked her.  One simple line meant so much to me.

I think when I originally developed the boxes with Heidi,  I did for me to have a way of communicate with my children more effectively.  Funny, I am a therapist, I help others communicate, but it is still hard to say those one liners.   Perhaps I didn’t know when the moment was right (as if there is a right moment); with 3 kids I always felt tired so the emotional energy was gone to say it those things to my husband or friends.  Or maybe I can blame my parents because we did not communicate in our family. It is so easy to have the list of reasons and wait for the holiday to make us buy the card, make the card, or stop for a moment and say those important words.

I challenge myself, and all of you to every day, to stop and acknowledge one person in your life. And to those of you who do have families, once a week have dinner together and talk about something meaningful.  The other night at dinner, I found out my fifteen year old is going to get an award at school for a piece of her art, and all of us, especially her older sister and younger brother got to share how proud they were of her, and it led into a discussion on art.  My daughter had such joy on her face that her siblings were that proud and interested.  How great for all of them.   I realized in that moment this one sentence from her brother and sister ment so much.  Please share any stories you have of sharing with a person today, tomorrow  or dinner conversations you have had.  We are all in this together and we can all make the changes with each others support.

Please have a great day today and maybe someone will say one line to you today that matters.
Cece Feiler